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How to Deal With Negative People


I stumbled on the post below by MakeItUltra here and I’m reblogging it because we all deal with some negative people, and we usually find it more difficult to distance ourselves from them than we do to keep accepting their negativity.  Sometimes they are a co-worker or family member and we have to keep interacting with them.  But we also know that positive thoughts and energy bring additional positivity and happiness; negative thoughts and energy bring us down.  So how do we best deal with an overly negative person when it isn’t a temporary problem and they aren’t about to change?  We need to change how we handle them…

“You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.” ~Joyce Meyer


1. Recognize and accept their toxicity
First and foremost, it is important to identify and accept that someone we know is a negative person. This can be difficult, especially when the person is someone we care about. Either way, we must be careful not to allow their negativity to transfer onto us. We need to accept that negativity is toxic and will only breed more negativity. It is especially important to avoid complainers. People who complain have given up hope that their actions can make any difference. We must be careful not to enable complainers by always listening to their woes.

2. Stop playing savior and/or problem solver
As human beings, we are wired to connect. For most of us, it is in our nature to lend a compassionate ear to someone who is in need. We must be careful not to let ourselves fall into the trap of negativity because we feel obligated to be helpful or nice. Keep in mind that negative people feed off spreading negativity to others.

3. Negative people are manipulative
Negative people learn how to discretely present themselves in a way that is disarming to others. Make sure to set your boundaries early with a person you have identified as negative. When a negative person meets someone who is positive, they will often ridicule, degrade or dismiss the person with the positive outlook. This is why negative people tend to surround themselves with other negative people. Keep in mind that a negative person will let you think they have “seen the light” just to throw it in your face the moment something does not go according to plan.

4. Don’t fight every battle
In the words of Mark Twain, “Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.” This applies especially to negative people. Attempting to convince a negative person of something positive is a waste of time. As a result of trying to convince them you might even become the target for all of their negativity. I am not saying to avoid the battles that need to be fought, I am saying to choose your battles wisely.

5. Keep emotional distance
The most important thing to remember when interacting with a negative person is to not get too close emotionally. We cannot always avoid negative people in our lives. But, we can keep ourselves from emotionally investing in such a way that causes us to spiral from our own reactivity. Remember, you cannot always avoid being reactive, but you can avoid dwelling on the reaction and spiraling into a negative place.”


  • My bottom line thoughts are – try to change the dynamic with them – stick to light topics, change topics away from negative ones, empathize with them when they suffer, praise them when they deserve it – but if your efforts at positivity don’t work – limit or eliminate your interaction with them to protect yourself.  You might not be able to change the negative behavior in another human being, but you definitely have the power to limit your interaction and emotional investment in them and change your own behavior to limit how much they affect you.  Don’t let anyone else bring you down.
  • But the five points in the original article are a good starting point, and if you liked the post from MIU, check out their web site

Website: MakeItUltraPsychological.com
Email: contact@makeitultra.com


About David Montaigne

Historian, investigator, and author of prophecy books like End Times and 2019, and Antichrist 2016-2019


2 thoughts on “How to Deal With Negative People

  1. Dear Sir

    I may have some interesting information for you regarding your june 6th 2016 and Antichrist predictions.

    Posted by silsdailyreflections | December 22, 2016, 4:52 am
  2. Please be aware this is no hoax.

    Best wishes

    D Ferguson

    Posted by silsdailyreflections | December 22, 2016, 4:58 am

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